Child Custody Modification – Parents’ Custody Rights

Parents do have child custody rights to make modifications to their custody order. If the circumstances of the parents change, or it is in the best interest of the children to adjust the arrangements, the parents can get the court to accept a custody order modification. Before a parent begins this process, there are several things to keep in mind.

The easiest way for a mother or father to get a custody modification is to talk to the other parent and get them to agree to the changes. If both parents support the changes, they merely have to file some papers with the court and the custody order is modified. So, the first thing to do for a custody modification is to communicate with the other parents. If James talks to Lisa about his work schedule and they come up with a new custody and visitation plan together, the order is very simple to modify.

Child Care: How To Handle Parent-Child Separation Anxiety

By Mairead O’Hara

You know it has to be done and yet you feel miserable and sometimes guilty about leaving your baby in Child Care. You probably find yourself crying all the way to work especially when he cries every time you leave. Your child feels the stress you feel at separation and, interestingly, the caregiver too feels a certain amount of stress. We will discuss here the ways in which you can manage the stress and help your little one adapt to the new routine.

There could be several reasons why your child and you find it difficult to cope with the separation. The most common fear is of being abandoned. He can also sense your anxiety while you drop him off. In some cases, the Day Care Centre may not be able to provide an appropriate activity program attuned to his temperament and interests. Also, he may not like the food provided there, or the sheer number of children and teachers may be a bit too much for him to handle. There is of course the more serious possibility of child abuse which is hard to find out as he may not confide in you. But, if you feel that he is unnaturally fearful of being left at the Centre, or cries more than usual, you should not rule out abuse.

It usually takes a child about a month to adjust to his new situation. So, don’t be alarmed if your kid persists in crying as he will soon adapt once he realizes that you will be back to pick him up. Some children who don’t cry at the start may even start crying after a week, a month, or even a year! Remember it is a natural reaction to change and the inability to control circumstances.

Here are a few tips on how you and your child can cope with Child Care. If you are just planning to start him on Child Care, it would be a good idea to take him along with you to the Centre. You can expose him to the new environment and make it an exciting thing to look forward to. Stay there for at least a couple of hours so that he can see the other children participating in activities and games. Also introduce him to his potential caregivers so that when he starts Child Care, he will not feel like he is being handed over to total strangers. This can reassure both the child and you as you can also see how the caregivers are interacting with the children.

When you finally start leaving your child at the Centre, try to ease him into the routine gradually by leaving him there for just an hour on the first day, followed by a couple of hours on the next, etc, slowly increasing the hours over a period of time. Make sure you say your byes and leave immediately. If he cries at separation, do not prolong your departure or overly indulge in comforting him. You could maybe leave the comforting to the caregiver, which will aid their bonding. When you discuss your child’s progress at the Child Care Centre, always use encouraging words and never sound negative or anxious as children easily pick up on their parents’ emotions and react accordingly.

Make sure you maintain a strict time schedule for both drop and pick up. As each day goes by, your child will gain assurance that his parent will be there to take him back home at a certain time. This will help him relax and enjoy the activities and even make new friends. Sometimes, letting him carry his favourite toy, blanket, etc, will give the child a sense of security and comfort.

There are instances where your kid could be feeling stressed at the Centre because he is under the care of caregivers who themselves are stressed out. A primary caregiver is essential if your child is a baby or toddler. This helps the child as it is easier to bond with just one or two new people and not a host of strange adults. Request for regular meetings with the management and the caregivers to get a report of your child’s activities. How long does it take for him to stop crying after you are gone? Are they able to distract him and get him involved in other activities? Is he making new friends or is he withdrawn?

Although Day Care can never replace the warmth, love, and undivided attention he gets at home, it can be beneficial for your child by giving him access to several expensive educational toys, interaction with children his age, outdoor activities, etc, which may not be possible at home. With the right approach and planning, Child Care can really work for you and your precious baby.

Mairead O’Hara lives in Australia and writes about many family matters. She is passionate about children and how parents have a huge responsibility while their child is in their care. She has several websites dedicated to helping parents in various areas find great child care centers. One such site is Child Care Centres Melbourne [http://www.childcarecentresmelbourne.com/] and another is Child Care Centre Melbourne [http://www.childcarecentremelbourne.com/].

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The Effects of Single Parenting in Today’s Life

By Amie Haskett

Now, many individuals make the choice to become parents even if they are not in a steady, committed relationship with another adult who will share the responsibility of child rearing. Of course there are several other circumstances that lead to divorces. Generally speaking, however, single parents are more empowered than ever before. There are, however, certain effects that must be examined. Single parenting has effects on the children, on the community at large, and on the parents themselves.

Effects of Single Parents on Children

The negative effects of parenting on the children involved have been known for years and are very predictable. Here, we examine the not-so-predictable positive effects that single moms and dads can have on kids. Kids raised in a one parent household develop stronger bonds with their parent than kids raised by both parents. They also develop a stronger sense of community due to the extra support system required. Finally, children of single parents are more likely to take on responsibility in the home and otherwise, often picking up the slack caused by the absence of a second parent.

Effects of Single Parenting on Community

Single mother and father households tend to bring communities together. Because parents raising children alone need more support than regular families, they tend to reach out more to others. Single mothers are much more likely to rely on church friends, teachers, librarians, and other trusted members of the community. Likewise, these trusty members of the community can be relied upon to open their hearts and offer their hand in helping them raise their children. The strengthened bonds that are so apparent between parents and their children serve as a template for even two-parent households to help them reinforce personal relationships with their own children.

Effects of Single Parenting

Raising children alone can be very challenging. Not only is the parent now solely responsible for financially supporting the children, but also for serving as both a mother and a father. Parents may find themselves working hard to balance a job, their child-rearing duties and a personal life.

Most single mums and dads are able to find this balance in one way or another. One of the most apparent effects of parenting on the adults involved is that they truly become masters in the art of juggling. Of course single parenting can be stressful, and this fact must not be ignored, but most single mums and dads are able to find healthy or even creative outlets for this stress so that negative effects of parenting can be minimized.

It can be said that the effects on children, the community and moms and dads are both negative and positive. By focusing on and reinforcing the possible positive effects, the negative effects can be minimized and overshadowed.

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